How do you Deal with Struggles as a Christian?

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Recently, I’ve been trying to up my blogging game. But I’ll be honest, I’ve been struggling with it. 

Struggling with what to write, how to say what I DO want to write. Struggling with how much I do-or don’t-write. Struggling with wanting to expand Unfading Beauty Ministries but not really knowing how. Just…struggling.

I’ve had thoughts like “what if this isn’t what I’m supposed to be doing?” despite the fact that I’ve had positive feedback.

I struggle with some of the numbers of people responding to, well…everything.

One of my brilliant friends and I were talking and I was telling her about my struggling with not having enough feedback or responses or anything and I told her that I’m having a hard time feeling successful at times and she told me “Kristen, it depends upon how you are measuring your success. If you’re measuring it by numbers, then you may feel like you aren’t being successful, but if you measure it by the fact that even if only one or two people are reading, but it’s changing their lives, then success would be achieved.”

I think that struggles are a hard topic for people in the church to broach. Why? Because Christians don’t like looking “weak” or maybe it’s just that we don’t want to bother people with our problems. We’re supposed to be strong and “suck it up” and “just deal with it” like the good church people we are. 

I would like to challenge that mindset. I would like to suggest that we have it all wrong. We NEED to admit when we’re struggling. We NEED to admit that we aren’t doing so good. Why? Because then God can use that person to speak a balm of healing words into our dry, burdened souls.

I’ll be honest with you, I’ve dreaded writing this. I’ve thought to myself “this blog is supposed to be uplifting. I don’t want to write something that’s so dismal.” But, as I sat down in front of my computer, I felt a nudging in my spirit saying “Kristen, it’s time.” So, here we are!

Admitting to people that I’m not okay when they ask me how I’m doing is something that I only recently stopped doing. or the longest time I believed that no one actually cared. That they were just asking how I was out of social propriety. I actually walked through the majority of my teen years believing this, and because of it, I carried a lot of unnecessary pain and anxiety. 

“And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.” 1 Peter 5:10 (ESV)

Thankfully our struggles aren’t all for naught.

“More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3-5 (ESV)

With all that said, ladies, don’t carry all your baggage on your own. When someone at church asks you how you are, tell them. Be honest You never know what God has waiting for you in the form of healing words.

Also, don’t let yourself get so run down that you are unable to function. It’s not worth the pain it produces. I’ve been working so hard on some projects for the ministry, I let myself get completely, physically, emotionally and spiritually exhausted. To the point where writing feels somewhat like a chore. It’s not worth it! Don’t let yourself go so much that the things you enjoy most, start to feel like a burden. If you let that happen enough times, you’ll eventually end up resenting that thing you previously loved so much!

It’s all about Unfading Beauty. It all ties in to your spiritual well-being and who you were created to be as a woman of God…One of which wasn’t to be a run-down mess of emotions!

XoXo,

~Kristen~

7 thoughts on “How do you Deal with Struggles as a Christian?

  1. Valerie says:

    I definitely agree with you on what you said about telling your church family the truth about how you are really doing. That is so important, especially if you are struggling cause then they will know how they can pray for you during your struggles

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  2. TheMomCafe.com says:

    OH Kristen, I’m so glad you shared such an honest message- because we ALL struggle with this. It’s so important to talk to others about our difficulties and in doing so, we can be encouraged by them. I’ve been blogging for six years and girl, I have felt similarly- and OFTEN. Your friend is right- and even more importantly, if we are putting our efforts into what we do- blogging or any other mission- for God: He SEES our hearts, and that is where our worth will be found. I struggle with it all too- the balance, the questioning- but ultimately, we work for God and He wants us to be healthy and find peace in knowing that He is in control of what we accomplish through Him. Keep taking those faithful steps, and seek His guidance in following your path… I’m learning to REST when He says REST. It’s a tough lesson, isn’t it?

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  3. Lauren C. Moye says:

    Kristen,

    Writing, like any other form of creating, is full of self-doubts. Unless you’re fortunate enough to have a mega-blockbuster hit, it’s easy to wonder if you’re “successful”. In other jobs, people can learn the skills they need and then coast. But with writing, it’s like we have to start over with each new project and each new blog post. All of that is to say that you’re not alone.

    Your friend gave you some great advice. As long as you’re changing your lives, you’re doing something good. Even if the only thing your posts do is to provide some kind of catharsis for your own soul, then you are doing something good. Of course, I’m also a big believer that doubt is a tool of the enemy designed to throw us off the right track. I’ve written about it on my blog before.

    Anyways, I will be praying for you. I look forward to seeing more posts from you.

    Lauren C. Moye
    http://www.chaoticlifeoflauren.com

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    • Kristen says:

      Thank you so much! I believe you’re right! I know I am [finally] on the right track with what God’s desire is for me! I look forward to reading your article! And I always appreciate prayers! If you’re interested, if you sign up for my newsletter, you’ll also get automatic emails informing you when I’ve written a new article. 🙂

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  4. sabrinascheerer says:

    Wow I relate to so much of this! Well all of it really!! 1. I have had the exact same struggles with my blogging. 2. I definitely like to appear strong and have it all together and have the same feelings that people generally don’t really care “how I am” so I just say fine. 3. Over the last year I have taken on too much and have not had the support or help I really needed which means other things I wanted to do to “fill my cup” so to speak got neglected and the things I was doing, while generally thing I enjoy, weren’t enjoyable because there was just too much stress. Thanks for sharing, hopefully we can both get better balance!

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