The Heart of Modesty: Modesty in Action

Modesty in Action

And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.”          1 Timothy 2:9-10

At the end of the first post for this series, we read proverbs 4:23; that everything we do comes from what is in our hearts.

That means how we act is directly caused by the state our heart is in.

Let me give you an example:

I’m one of those people who tends to hold onto the bad things people do to or say about me. I let my heart become so full of anger, bitterness and resentment and, because of it, I end up treating people those same things that I’ve let into my heart-whether I mean to or not.

It’s like a cup…the more you fill it, the fuller it becomes and inevitably, if you keep pouring into it, whatever you’re pouring will begin to overflow out of it.

Have you ever seen someone go out of their way to get attention by acting out? Maybe their being overly loud, making exaggerated gestures or movements with their hands or body? Or, maybe they had an emotional outburst that drew more than a little attention to themself?

All of these things are caused by what is in a person’s heart.

Don’t get me wrong, emotions are a wonderful, God-given gift! Emotions are what lead us to take action and have sympathy and care about others.

But, emotions gone unchecked-whether happy or sad- can end up leading us down sinful paths that lead to hurt and ruin.

-Emotions gone unchecked,

Remember the questionnaire I wrote about in Part 1 of the series?

One of the things I asked those who took part is “What does a Modest Woman look like to you?”  

Here are a couple of answers that I received that so perfectly agree with what this article is saying:

  1. “I think modesty had a lot of different aspects or meanings, it includes how she acts as well as dresses. But a truly modest woman will act modest and dress… Ultimately, its more than physical appearance, but a truly modest woman will recognize the need to dress modestly as well. To me a modest woman is very balanced emotionally, does not demand attention from others, in any way, and is quietly confident in herself and strong.”

  2. “To me a modest woman still has a sense of mystery to her. She doesn’t throw her emotions around for everyone to hear and see. She doesn’t get acceptance by having to have the spotlight…”

A couple of weeks ago, I was reading in my Bible and read about a man who had invited Jesus over for lunch and Jesus sat and watched everyone try to sit in the seat of honor. 

This was Jesus’ response;

“When you put on a luncheon or a banquet,” he said, “don’t invite your friends, brothers, relatives, and rich neighbors. For they will invite you back, and that will be your only reward. Instead, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind. Then at the resurrection of the righteous, God will reward you for inviting those who could not repay you.” Luke 14:12-14

Another such verse puts it this way:

“Watch out! Don’t do your good deeds publicly, to be admired by others, for you will lose the reward from your Father in heaven.” Matthew 6:1

When you are doing something, what is in your heart? To bring glory to yourself, or to God?

“So if you eat or drink or whatever you do, do everything to honor God.”                      1 Corinthians 10:31 (Emphasis added)

Some of you may know, that I love to sing, and grew up singing specials in church.

As I’ve gotten older, I started singing more, and the more I sang the more compliments I got. Add to that trying to “bust out” of the shell people put my in of who they thought I was and trying to be my own person, I started singing more unconventional (Christian hip-hop) songs at church.

Well, last summer, I realized that my singing was slowly becoming less and less about him, and more and more about me.

So, I took the summer off and fasted singing in front of crowds. And you know what? Since that time, I experience and encounter Christ in deeper, more intimate ways during worship.

Challenge yourself today, and ask yourself what the motives behind whatever you’re doing are. Are they for personal glory, or Christ’s glory?

Finally, as with the last two parts of the series, here are a couple of my favorite modest Autumnal outfits! The olive t-shirt dress is from Kosher Casual-an adorable online shop full of gorgeous and affordable modest clothing all the way from The Holy Land of Israel! (An Added Bonus!) The rest of the clothes are from various stores such as Walmart and Giant Tiger!

I don’t know about you, but I LOVE Autumn! I get to start wearing a darker lipstick three-quarter sleeve shirts (and Dresses)! Orange (it feels strange wearing orange toned clothes any other time of the year!)

And Don’t forget about our Giveaway of two books-donated by Pure Freedom Ministries– and a special made, one-of-a-kind- notebook designed by yours truly! Keep an eye out because the giveaway is coming up right around the corner! Keep an eye out for how to enter!

 

XoXo,

~Kristen~

 

Why Revival Won’t Happen in The Church

Why Revival Won't Happen in The Church

Over the last several years, I have been to many churches where it’s being prought that the church needs to be ready for people-for the revival that’s coming, and, while I agree that revival is coming, I don’t believe it’s going to be in the church.

Why?

Because many churches now-a-days are more concerned with their image; making sure they’re “cool” and “hip” and with getting money.

Over the course of the last several years-eight to be exact-I have went to several churches. Let me tell you a bit about my experiences.

It was brought to the attention of one church I had gone to that an attendee knew of a family that wasn’t able to afford groceries and had several young children at the time. The person who knew of this family was willing to purchase the groceries with their own money-they just wanted them to be given through the church, but the response from one of the pastor’s was “we don’t do that sort of thing…” 

Another church I went to for a time took Bible verses completely out of context and twisted it to fit their agenda–I quit going to that church soon thereafter.

And finally, I’ve attended a church where I was told right out that I wasn’t wanted or needed. That my dreams would never come true.

Here’s what I’m getting at; Why does the institution of the church think people are going to flock to them when they are continually turning their back on and/or are verbally beating down those who are there?

One statistic I found says that 80% of young people who have grown u in evangelical churches leave the church by age 29 because of how they are treated.

Please note: when it says they leave the church, it isn’t meaning they leave the Christian faith, it literally is saying they leave the institution of the church.

Churches seem to think that in order to get people into their doors, they have to put up a big, flashy show, have coffee shops with all sorts of fancy drinks and foods and all these different gimmicks, but I think that what young people are really wanting, is to know that they are wanted, needed and valued-that they aren’t just another number in a statistic of the capacity the church has reached.

Today’s young people are committing suicide at unprecedented rates because they feel like they aren’t wanted and that they’re just a burden to the people around them. This includes an equal amount of young people who have grown up in the church as those who haven’t.

How do I know? Because I was one of those young people who thought all of those things what I was in junior high just a few short years ago.

Growing up, the church I went to had a sign over the inside of the door that read,“You are now stepping into the mission field.” as you walked out the church doors.

The institution of the church has gotten to the point where they have convinced themselves that people are eventually going to come to them, so they just sit and wait and preach flowery things that make them feel like cotton candy and unicorns on the inside. 

There’s a song that I just love called “If We are The Body” by Casting Crowns that speaks volumes. The chorus reads:

“If we are the body
Why aren’t His arms reaching?
Why aren’t His hands healing?
Why aren’t His words teaching?
And if we are the body
Why aren’t His feet going?
Why is His love not showing them there is a way?
There is a way, there is a way” 

The song goes on to talk about a man who is traveling away from home who comes to a church but leaves because the people were snubbing their noses at him and that “The weight of their judgmental glances Tells him that his chances are better out on the road.” 

The first verse talks about a young woman who goes to church but the other young girls make fun and laugh at her right where she can see.

This song speaks exactly what many churches have turned into: a bunch of fluff and no substance.

In the Bible, when “The Church” was mentioned, they weren’t talking about a building or institution. They were speaking of each individual person.

“Do you not know that YOU are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?”     1 Corinthians 3:16 (emphasis added)

People sit and listen about reaching out to the lost. They go to church and have these massively emotional experiences and yet, when they go home, once the emotions have worn off, they do nothing to follow through and actually reach out.

Ladies.

Gentlemen.

THIS is why I believe that when revival does come, it won’t be in the buildings we call churches.

Let me be clear, there are many good churches who do reach out and care about the people that walk in their doors, unfortunately, that doesn’t make up for the many churches that don’t.

There is coming a day -and to a small extent it’s already happening -where people are going to tire of the show that many churches put on, and they’re going to be searching or the truth. But it won’t be in the churches.

If you look back in history at any of the great revivals is North American history, you’ll see that they didn’t occur in the churches. They occurred in fields in the open elements, make-shift shelters, and/or tents and later on in the mid-1900’s in stadiums. Places where people weren’t worried about how they’d be treated or looked at. Places where people were accepted as they were-no matter what. Everyone was there for the same reason, to seek the real, unvarnished truth.

Another song by Casting Crowns is called “Does Anybody Hear Her?” 

It’s about a young woman who is looking for help, hope and acceptance so she goes to a church but everyone turns their back on her because of her reputation and how she is dressed.

This is exactly what is happening to people who go to churches today. The church has hurt and turned away so many people because they didn’t fit a certain standard.

In the end, what it comes down to is people no longer see the church as being full of warm-hearted loving people, but of judgmental hypocrites who won’t accept them as they are-despite what is being prought about on a regular basis.

That is why revival won’t occur in the church.

 

 

Women of True Beauty

Women True Beauty

As I was preparing for the Autumn kick-off in August, I was trying to figure out how I was going to write about True Beauty without sounding like an echo of other articles that I’ve written.

As I sat and scanned my brain for ideas on how to do that, the idea of doing a series about different women in the Bible and talk about the different qualities of true beauty each possessed came to mind. But, as I read the stories of women like Deborah and Jael, Esther, Ruth, Rahab and Mary-Jesus’ mother, I realized that, while each of their stories different, they all possessed the same qualities-the qualities of True Beauty.

God used Deborah and Jael to defeat a king and deliver the Israelites from the Cannanites. Both women did as they knew they had to do-despite being a terrifying situation that would make most women cry out in fear, yet they faced it head on with bravery and determination.

Esther, a young Jewish girl who became Queen of Persia, knowing that going to the king unsummoned could land her with a death sentence, went anyways because she had resolved that it was more important to save the whole of the Jewish people; that her life was worth the sacrifice if that’s how it had to be.

And Rahab, a prostitute who let two Israeli spies into her home to hide so that they could assess and then report back their findings so that Israel could conquer Jericho. She, who was seen as the worst kind of woman, trusted that the God of Israel would save and redeem her.

Then there’s Ruth who left her homeland to take care of her mother-in-law, even though they were headed to a place where she would be looked down upon for being a Moabitess. Yet, she still told Naomi, “Don’t ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people and your God will be my God. Wherever you die, I will die and there I will be buried.” She even went as far to say, “May The Lord punish me severely if I allow anything but death to separate us!” (Ruth 1: 16-17)

Ruth was determined to stick with Naomi and take care of her. She was loyal, and she wanted to honor the woman who had, not only become her mother-in-law, but the woman who had taught her about the God of Israel and his goodness and love.

Then there’s Mary, Jesus’ own mother. A woman who trusted that God would take care of everything when she became pregnant with Jesus. She must have known what could happen when she showed up to Joseph, pregnant. The fear that swept through her as the angel appeared to her–why else would the angel have told her to not be afraid? Knowing that she could fave divorce–or even death–for what people would have automatically assumed her as being unfaithful to Joseph. (Thank Goodness that angel appeared to him, too!) Yet, she told the Angel, “I am the Lord’s servant. May everything you have said about me come true.” (Luke 1:38) 

When you look at all these stories, what is the common thread?

That they all trusted God in the midst of some terrifying circumstances. 

This is how the Holy women of old made themselves beautiful; they put their trust in God…” 1 Peter 3:5

These women of the Bible weren’t concerned with their outward beauty; with what they’d wear or how to fix their hair. No! They were concerned with obeying and trusting him whose authority they were under-God’s!

true beauty quote

Ladies, let us strive not to be concerned about what’s on the outside, but with what is on the inside. After all, what ever is on the inside, will flow out. 

Inner Beauty = Outer Beauty

XoXo,

~Kristen~ 

 

Unfading Beauty Ministries Fundraiser

 

Hi Everyone! 

As we draw closer to our Autumn Launch, I have become aware of the costs that come with keeping a ministry going.

So, to raise the needed funds, I have designed a T-Shirt to sell!

The design comes from my 2017  word/term of the year, “Live Intentionally”-reminding us-and those who see it-to live an intentional life rather than just “going with the flow” and not fulfilling that which we are called to.

It is available in 10 colors and in Sizes Small to 2XL.

Here is a picture of it:

shirt

I want to ask each one of you, if this ministry has in any way brought you closer to Christ, please consider purchasing this shirt to support the continuation of getting the name of Jesus out there to any and all who are willing to listen!

Here’s the Link For You to Purchase The Shirt: https://teespring.com/live-intentionally-tshirt

Thank you in advance for your support! 

XoXo,

Kristen