Time to Tell The Truth

Time to Tell the Truth

In recent weeks, a very well known pastor of a very large church in the States has been criticized for his answer-or rather, lack of an answer-about abortion while on an incredibly Liberal television talk-show.

As I read about what was said, my heart became so burdened for those whom he had the chance to minister to and share the truth with, but chose not to.

Unfortunately, this is happening way more often than it should. Pastors are sharing a watered-down version of the gospel to pacify those in attendance.

I want to say, while this applies to every single Christian, I want to take this moment to speak to those who are specifically in public ministry.

Pastors are seemingly becoming more worried about offending someone, than they are with sharing the truth.

It is a pastor’s job–their duty, in fact, as a messenger of The Word– to tell the people in their church what the Bible says is sin-whether or not they like what you are saying.

We are told that the Bible is the very word of God-that it is God-breathed.

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.” 2 Timothy 3:16

Meaning, whether someone likes it or not, when you tell them what the Bible is saying, you are telling them what God is saying.

When a teacher of The Word is evasive or purposefully not saying what the Bible says–be it on a TV interview, in Church or anywhere else for that matter–they miss the opportunity to lead people into the light. In fact, by not telling people the truth, it just leaves them in darkness while the person who is supposed to show them the light stands by watching them live a life that’ll lead to nothing but destruction and, quite frankly, to Hell.

Here’s the thing; we are told in the Bible that people aren’t going to like what the Bible says.

We are told that we will suffer for speaking the gospel-maybe it won’t mean getting killed, like it does in other countries, but it could mean being cast out of the more “popular” groups at work, school or even at church.

“And all nations will hate you because you are my followers.” Matthew 10:22

“Yes, and everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution.” 2 Timothy 3:12

Here’s what it comes down to; sharing the gospel-the real, unvarnished gospel- isn’t what people want to hear. Society loves to be told that everything they do is okay. And, unfortunately, even in the church today, people are being taught that it’s okay to do something because you can just ask God to forgive you and he will because of his grace. 

When someone gives their heart to Christ, they’re repenting of their sin. Repentance means turning and walking away from one’s sinful nature, not continuing in it because “he’ll just forgive me for it anyways”. That isn’t repentance, that’s just a free pillow that is being handed out to church-goers so that they can continue feel more comfortable about what you’re doing, and yet still feel like they’re living a sanctified life.

Why? Because if people are hearing what makes them feel good, they’ll come back, and goodness knows that all the really matters is the numbers and attendance records… (complete sarcasm meant there) 

Pastors, it’s time to raise up and be unashamed of speaking the truth-even if it might offend someone. It’s time to stop worrying about the numbers so that you’ll reach your monthly financial quote and, rather than putting your faith in the earthly, obvious way to make money (by having tons of people attend your services) return to having faith that God will provide the resources needed to continue in ministry.

You can’t stop someone from feeling offended, but you can deliver the message that’ll stop people from going to Hell. 

And this world is in desperate need of The Truth. The truth that the only way things are going to get better is if people start turning back to God. And the only way that’ll happen is if you stand up and preach what the Bible says-and part of that, is telling the people what it says is sin, and it’s a minister’s job-a messenger of The Gospel of Jesus Christ- to tell them.

It’s time to raise up and preach the message that’ll cause these nations to turn back to God! Even if it isn’t the “popular” thing to be telling people. 

 

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Why Revival Won’t Happen in The Church

Why Revival Won't Happen in The Church

Over the last several years, I have been to many churches where it’s being prought that the church needs to be ready for people-for the revival that’s coming, and, while I agree that revival is coming, I don’t believe it’s going to be in the church.

Why?

Because many churches now-a-days are more concerned with their image; making sure they’re “cool” and “hip” and with getting money.

Over the course of the last several years-eight to be exact-I have went to several churches. Let me tell you a bit about my experiences.

It was brought to the attention of one church I had gone to that an attendee knew of a family that wasn’t able to afford groceries and had several young children at the time. The person who knew of this family was willing to purchase the groceries with their own money-they just wanted them to be given through the church, but the response from one of the pastor’s was “we don’t do that sort of thing…” 

Another church I went to for a time took Bible verses completely out of context and twisted it to fit their agenda–I quit going to that church soon thereafter.

And finally, I’ve attended a church where I was told right out that I wasn’t wanted or needed. That my dreams would never come true.

Here’s what I’m getting at; Why does the institution of the church think people are going to flock to them when they are continually turning their back on and/or are verbally beating down those who are there?

One statistic I found says that 80% of young people who have grown u in evangelical churches leave the church by age 29 because of how they are treated.

Please note: when it says they leave the church, it isn’t meaning they leave the Christian faith, it literally is saying they leave the institution of the church.

Churches seem to think that in order to get people into their doors, they have to put up a big, flashy show, have coffee shops with all sorts of fancy drinks and foods and all these different gimmicks, but I think that what young people are really wanting, is to know that they are wanted, needed and valued-that they aren’t just another number in a statistic of the capacity the church has reached.

Today’s young people are committing suicide at unprecedented rates because they feel like they aren’t wanted and that they’re just a burden to the people around them. This includes an equal amount of young people who have grown up in the church as those who haven’t.

How do I know? Because I was one of those young people who thought all of those things what I was in junior high just a few short years ago.

Growing up, the church I went to had a sign over the inside of the door that read,“You are now stepping into the mission field.” as you walked out the church doors.

The institution of the church has gotten to the point where they have convinced themselves that people are eventually going to come to them, so they just sit and wait and preach flowery things that make them feel like cotton candy and unicorns on the inside. 

There’s a song that I just love called “If We are The Body” by Casting Crowns that speaks volumes. The chorus reads:

“If we are the body
Why aren’t His arms reaching?
Why aren’t His hands healing?
Why aren’t His words teaching?
And if we are the body
Why aren’t His feet going?
Why is His love not showing them there is a way?
There is a way, there is a way” 

The song goes on to talk about a man who is traveling away from home who comes to a church but leaves because the people were snubbing their noses at him and that “The weight of their judgmental glances Tells him that his chances are better out on the road.” 

The first verse talks about a young woman who goes to church but the other young girls make fun and laugh at her right where she can see.

This song speaks exactly what many churches have turned into: a bunch of fluff and no substance.

In the Bible, when “The Church” was mentioned, they weren’t talking about a building or institution. They were speaking of each individual person.

“Do you not know that YOU are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?”     1 Corinthians 3:16 (emphasis added)

People sit and listen about reaching out to the lost. They go to church and have these massively emotional experiences and yet, when they go home, once the emotions have worn off, they do nothing to follow through and actually reach out.

Ladies.

Gentlemen.

THIS is why I believe that when revival does come, it won’t be in the buildings we call churches.

Let me be clear, there are many good churches who do reach out and care about the people that walk in their doors, unfortunately, that doesn’t make up for the many churches that don’t.

There is coming a day -and to a small extent it’s already happening -where people are going to tire of the show that many churches put on, and they’re going to be searching or the truth. But it won’t be in the churches.

If you look back in history at any of the great revivals is North American history, you’ll see that they didn’t occur in the churches. They occurred in fields in the open elements, make-shift shelters, and/or tents and later on in the mid-1900’s in stadiums. Places where people weren’t worried about how they’d be treated or looked at. Places where people were accepted as they were-no matter what. Everyone was there for the same reason, to seek the real, unvarnished truth.

Another song by Casting Crowns is called “Does Anybody Hear Her?” 

It’s about a young woman who is looking for help, hope and acceptance so she goes to a church but everyone turns their back on her because of her reputation and how she is dressed.

This is exactly what is happening to people who go to churches today. The church has hurt and turned away so many people because they didn’t fit a certain standard.

In the end, what it comes down to is people no longer see the church as being full of warm-hearted loving people, but of judgmental hypocrites who won’t accept them as they are-despite what is being prought about on a regular basis.

That is why revival won’t occur in the church.

 

 

The Girl in the Front Church Pew: Accepting the Lie of Mandatory Perfection

The Girl in the Front Church Pew

The girl in the front church pew. She’s happy and kind. She is always perfectly put together and she has it all together…

Al least, that’s what everybody seems to think.

She’s that girl who came from a good, strong, steady Christian home. At church almost every Sunday. Participates in extracurricular church activities. Lends a helping hand when she’s asked. 

Congregants look at her and think that her life is without hurt. Kids at school think of her as the “goody-goody church girl” who doesn’t like to have any “real fun”.

Yet, she’s breaking on the inside. Her heart feels like a cracked window; a hundred little shards falling out one by one. 

Putting on a mask so that she doesn’t “let anybody down”. 

When people ask her “how are you?” she smiles and says “I’m doing so good” in the most chipper voice she can muster, all the while she just wants to scream and claw at something. Yet, she keeps things upbeat and lighthearted because she doesn’t want to bring someone else down with her troubles.

The girl in the front church pew…

I’m that girl…rather…I was that girl.

I was the girl who used to think that I had to cover up when I was hurting because people expected me to be happy; to always have a smile on my face. 

I had myself convinced that people only wanted anything to do with me when I was hurting; that they didn’t care about me the rest of the time, so why do that to myself.

I have seen several girls who grew up in church go through the same thing. We let the lies of the enemy convince us that we have to be happy. That we’ll let everyone down if we let them see that we are going through a rough time. 

There was a period for about two years that I wouldn’t let myself cry in front of people because that showed weakness. I didn’t want others to see the pain that I was hiding. It also didn’t help that I was told that crying in front of others was purely selfishness and a means to gather attention to myself.

Some of you may know from my social media sites, that I was at a ladies retreat this past weekend, and the topic above is one of the areas where God was doing some major healing in.

I’ll be honest, I had myself completely convinced that no one cared unless I was visibly going through something. That they wouldn’t take time for me unless they knew I was hurting. So, I started closing myself off to people, as I decided that if they didn’t truly care about me-or take time for me- at my highest like they did at my lowest, then they didn’t deserve to know the details of my life… 

It wasn’t until this past weekend, that I realized I wasn’t closing them off because I thought they didn’t deserve to know my life, I closed them off because I didn’t want to feel the hurt and pain of rejection again.

I want to talk to you ladies who have lived a similar life as the image of the ‘Church Girl who sits in the Front Pew’ that I wrote at the beginning of the article.

 

You are loved and people do care about you. You don’t need to put on a mask of happiness in order to make sure you live up to the standard that you think people have for you. and take it from someone who has lived through this, most of the time it is only what you think they think. 

It’s all a lie from the devil. Plain and Simple.

“Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8

The enemy wants to alienate you (us) from our church family. Without that support and fellowship, we’ll close ourselves off and could end up falling so deep in believing the enemy’s lies that we start to walk away from the church altogether-as is what started happening to me. 

I left my home church and started trying other churches, and started to feel like I could start sharing stuff again; my life, my testimony some of my struggles and eventually, I ended up going back to my home church, and that’s when I started thinking that I had to keep this happy attitude. That people expected me to have a happy smile on my face, so, that’s what I did-even if I was feeling totally miserable.

What I’m trying to say, is that I believed so many different lies. Lies that I had to do this or else that would happen. That this is what people thought-or didn’t.

Ladies, it can be so easy to let ourselves get lost in believing these lies. 

I know…I know

One of the definitions I found for “to know” is: “to have developed a relationship with…through meeting and spending time…” 

I developed a relationship with these lies. I held them close and used them as my proverbial safety covering. I met with them and let them convince me of their so-called “truth”. Shielding myself with them. The lies of having to present an air of happiness became an exhausting chore, yet whenever the exhaustion would hit, my “friend” the lie would come calling and remind me why I was doing it.

 

I want you to know, you aren’t alone. I know what you are experiencing. I also want you to know, that these things you believe are so far from the truth. People care about you, and while I might not know you personally, care about you!

Seriously, I want to encourage you, if you ever need to talk, you can always contact me.

You can get a hold of me through Facebook or through e-mailing me at unfadingbeauty77@gmail.com. And if I can’t help, I’d be more than happy to try to help you find someone who can.

XoXo,

~Kristen~

God’s Faithfulness. Presenting: A New Light on Modesty

I am so continually in awe of God’s goodness and faithfulness! To be honest, I never ever thought that the dreams I had for Unfading Beauty Ministries would ever actually come true, but here I am planning a HUGE project that is literally changing the way I think and look at things. Not only in the knowledge I’m gaining from all of my reading and research of the Bible, but also how much my trust in God has grown. He is providing one thing after the other for this project and it is coming together so perfectly!

One of the verses that I have continually prayed over Unfading Beauty Ministries is Proverbs 16:3 “Commit your actions to the LORD, and your plans will succeed.” 

I remember the very first day Unfading Beauty Ministries was set up. A good friend set everything up for me, and everything was ready for me to write my little heart out.

But, before I even wrote my first article, I knew that I needed to dedicate this new endeavor to God and to his Kingdom Building. That he would have his will and way through this new Unfading Beauty blog.

I’ll be honest, I wasn’t fully committed to writing on here at first. In fact, it wasn’t until May of 2016 (approximately three years into this blog) that I realized that God had given me something that I needed to be a better steward of.

One of the dreams that I’ve always had, is that I would be able to partner with other bloggers, companies and ministries to reach an even wider demographic of young women. 

Several months ago, I was approached by a company that wanted to do a collaboration with Unfading Beauty Ministries-something that I’ve been dreaming about doing for a very long time. However, when I went onto the website to find out what their beliefs the company was founded upon, I was met with a long paragraph telling me a lot of stuff that goes directly against what I believe-and the beliefs this ministry was founded upon. 

Then, I found out that a Christian friend of mine was doing a collaboration with them. This caused a lot of wrestling within me as to whether I should or shouldn’t. I kept having thoughts like “If she’s okay with doing it, then it should be okay for me…but it just goes against what I believe to be right…”

After much prayer, I had to decline the offer, knowing that I couldn’t in good conscience support-and advertise my love for a company that goes completely against my fundamental beliefs. 

So, I started praying, Lord, if it’s your will for me to collaborate with other companies, lead me to ones that believe your truth…I surrender this dream to you.”

God has been so faithful in everything and I am far beyond excited to announce to you that I have partnered with several different companies and ministries to bring you a project about modesty!

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Before you start thinking, “Modesty? Yeah, I’ve heard it a million times. Don’t dress like this, and do dress like that…” 

Well, let me tell you, this project, while it will talk about how we dress ourselves physically, I am also going to be talking about other kinds of modesty. I’ll just leave it at that and you’ll have to tune in to find out what other kinds of modesty there are! 

*Wink, Wink*

I want to say a special thank you to all the companies and Ministries that I am partnering with to bring this project to you!

  • Dainty Jewells Here’s a little bit about their company from their “About Us” Page:

“Dainty Jewell’s is about more than just selling beautiful clothing. We are on a mission to provide every woman and girl the opportunity to choose timeless fashions that stay true to her sense of modesty. We believe that having access to affordable, modest, and beautiful pieces allows all women’s true beauty to shine through.”

“NeeSee’s Dresses are vintage inspired, exclusive designs for women who love to wear beautiful clothes but who won’t sacrifice comfort or modesty. Each dress is feminine, flattering, and fashionable. When you wear one of our dresses, you feel confident because your best features are emphasized. Comfortable. Modest. Beautiful.”

Kosher Casual is a company that is in Israel and is dedicated to modest fashion. Their clothing is modest, beautiful and versatile! 

And Finally, I am getting to partner with Pure Freedom Ministries to do an absolutely fabulous End-Of-Series Giveaway!!

I want you to know that I truly, absolutely LOVE and support each and every one of these companies/ministries! 

I am so excited to see everything God is going to do through this awesome project! Within the next month or so I’ll be taking part in a photo shoot of some different outfits that have been graciously provided by the above companies as well as getting the rest of the exciting articles, print outs and other materials put together for all of you! As well as a vlog for each part of the series!

One last thing, I want to encourage all of you, if you have any questions or thoughts about modesty, please don’t be afraid to contact me! I am very excited to answer questions and interact with you!

Before you take off take a few moments to go check each one of them out! You won’t regret it!

Stay tuned for more details to come!

Until next time!

XoXo,

~Kristen~